I constantly read online or hear on the news how catty women are and how much we don’t get along. It happens over and over again. I often hear women say, “I don’t get along with women very well. They’re so vicious.” It’s as if every person in possession of a vagina is somehow cursed with the inability to participate in rational, friendly behavior. Women are portrayed as feral creatures waiting to claw the eyes out of her gender-sharing companions. It’s madness, yet I’m not sure I disagree with these self-proclaimed media experts.
I desperately want these media outlets to be wrong about the relationships between women, but it’s hard when you read stories like model Caroline Berg Eriksen who posted the four-day-post-pregnancy picture of her toned belly. Media outlets everywhere wrote article after article about this picture:
I get it. She’s thin, has amazing boobs, enviable thighs and not to mention a four-day postpartum belly like I’ve never seen. However, is it other women who feel angry over her photo or is it the media blowing it out of proportion? After reading a bajillion articles about one picture, I’ve come to the conclusion the rage seems to culminate from an imaginary place created by the media. Most of the user comments were pleasant, like this:
However, blog posts like this, Blog hate, seem to be those spreading the hate and outrage. Not to mention the news networks talking about it nonstop.
It’s no wonder women feel pitted against one another. What we are doing is allowing male-driven media outlets dictate how we feel about ourselves and other women. What we are doing is internalizing contempt for others based on what we vs. they look like, what we vs. they wear and how the media portrays us both. What we are doing is letting societal pressures make us feel less than. What we are doing is becoming imprisoned based on looks.
What we should be doing is turning a blind eye to women like Ericksen and creating, even flaunting our own version of beautiful. What we should be doing is uplifting all women, thin or overweight. What we should be doing is living our lives to the best of our abilities, ignoring what society tells us is ideal. What we should be doing is listening to our hearts for fulfillment. What we should be doing is talking to other women about the struggles we face.
So, what are you doing? Are you joining in the bitchy women’s club or are you living life for you?
Remember, what we should be doing is living life real, lest our daughters inherit our attitudes. That’s what we should be doing.